Last night I set out to buy a practical, dependable family car but came home with a red hot sexy muscle car instead. Whoops! As I sat signing a dead body's weight worth of paperwork I suddenly sat up straight in my chair. OH MY GOD WAIT A MINUTE AM I HAVING A MIDLIFE CRISIS??Read More
Last night I threw a book launch I never planned to throw for a book I never planned to write. All my life I dreamed of being a famous author in a big city with a big agent and an even bigger publishing house. But that dream died a brutal, gory death when my third book was rejected by every agent I sent it to. It was a very dead death. A death that broke my heart. That made me question my worth.Read More
In the last week, with less than 24 hours of transition time between, I’ve both attended a 5 Rhythms Dance retreat called Portals and led a Life in 10 Minutes writing retreat at the Porches.
Though I have identified most of my life as a writer, dance has always been for everyone else. Ideas focused in my mind. Music was about the lyrics. Interactions with people were what you had to say to them and what they said- or didn't say- to you. Words reigned supreme, the master of the mind. The body has always been something to be gotten around, dragged around, forced to obey- even though of course it never did. Like a hungry child my body has tried to get my attention in a million ways and I've had no idea how to listen.
At the beginning of this week I taught Vision Quest, my first ever camp for adults. This afternoon I'm leaving for a three day dance retreat featuring a fire pit and a crystal bowl bath though frankly I only know what one of those things are. I have always been a seeker in search of the extraordinary, hunting for God in ecstasy and LSD, men and mountain tops. My problem has never been finding a spiritual high. That's easy. The problem has been the inevitable low, the depressing headfirst crash back into reality, the extreme gap between the thing I’ve set out to do and the return to the life I tried to leave behind. Many of my spiritual experiences have not been unlike getting drunk, making 10 new best friends, and figuring out the meaning of life only to pass out face down on the couch and waking up hungover, throwing up and covered in sharpie.Read More
Lately I haven't been able to stop thinking about the divide between the growth in my personal life and the decline of western civilization. How can I celebrate my world coming together when the whole world is falling apart? How can I not?
Yesterday after camp I was struck with a dilemma. Do Henry and I go to Studio Two Three’s Make it Rain(bow) art/ party/fundraiser or the ACLU community conversation about the Muslim Ban at the Islamic center of Richmond? In the end we did both. Art matters. Fundamental rights matter. And the thing is, they can both matter at the same time. In the perfect world, they do.
A few weeks ago I met an old friend for coffee. "It looks like things in your life are going really well," she said. "I'm so sorry to hear it. That must be really hard for you."
I thanked her. "It is," I said. Especially when the whole world is falling apart. Especially when people are dying and suffering and fighting for their dignity, their rights and their lives. My friend and I are both addicts in recovery from everything and feelings are hard. All of them. Even the good ones. Especially the good ones. Addicts love self-destruction. Addicts love self-sabotage.Read More
My mother has always been a rebel and an activist, with deep roots in the Jewish tradition of social justice, of never forget. At my mother's house there’s always room for one more at the table, there's always a meal to bring somewhere, a person or a cause to uplift. My mother brought me to my first march in Washington and she continues to show up at marches and rallies and protests again and again. She told me as she grows older she’s convinced her job is to be a body, to show up, to be counted.Read More
The other day I talked to an old friend who is moving out of his warehouse and onto a houseboat.
Yesterday afternoon my husband just so happened to bring home a pamphlet from the very same dock where my friend is planning to rent a slip.Read More
1. He looks at you the same way whether you’re in a négligée, a sweat suit, or a cat suit.
2. When you gain 50 pounds the first year you’re married and the nurse practitioner says honey you can’t just eat everything you see and you go home red-faced and ashamed and it isn't until you feel what you can only describe as a pop in your side that you request an ultrasound and they find a tumor on your adrenal gland pumping out cortisol and moon face and buffalo hump, Cushing’s Disease and your husband changes the bandages around your 13 inch stapled wound that wraps around your side and still calls you beautiful.Read More
On Sunday we worked. We chopped and we whacked, dragged and raked, swept and gathered. We collected broken glass and rusted nails, busted windows and broken down doors. We hauled rocks and moved trees. We reclaimed land and a structure lost to a mountain buried in time. We sweat and grunted and strained.Read More